A message I received on Linkedin recently:
Hi Adam I came across you on the Shitlord Hub. You have a damn fine blog. I’d like to buy you lunch. No gay.
I had to chuckle at the ‘no gay’ part, although it would have been funnier as ‘no ghey’. But on reflection I found it less and less amusing, and the reason for my unease was the motivations behind why the gentlemen added this caveat in the first place.
Back in the days when men were real men, women were real women, and the gays kept their heads down and hid behind locked toilet cubicles, this sort of thing was entirely unnecessary. A man would no more think that another man had possible homosexual intentions by asking him out to lunch than the Liberal party would announce a big spending budget fueled by a tax grab.
The push of homosexuality as an acceptable lifestyle choice has had the effect on male friendship of queering the pitch so to speak. It is not that a man is repelled by other men in his efforts to form friendships, rather that he himself hesitates to reach out and make such an offer for fear that his gesture will be misconstrued as having nefarious homosexual undertones.
Thus it becomes all too easy to second guess oneself in this matter. Too often the gesture to have a beer or have lunch is not made, simply because an individual feels uneasy at the thought of his gesture being mistaken for something else. Even if a man does push past this barrier he still feels the need to add the caveat that no misintention is implied.
Perhaps because this also can go both ways. What if an invitation to lunch is made but the recipient might be very happy for that to proceed to a dalliance of the homosexual sort? Now the simple act of proposing a beer just to have a chat becomes even more fraught and complicated. Does he think I’m gay for making this offer? And even worse, would he be happy with that?
This may sound like a bit of a joke but men lately are having a very hard time forming genuine friendships. It is by far the number one topic for which I receive requests for advice. It is particularly challenging to find like-minded male friends in this day and age. I spoke yesterday at the importance for men to seek a path of individual truth. That is all well and good but the big problem with such a path lies in its inherent loneliness.
Once you begin to question what is regarded as common knowledge you will quickly find that your patience level with your friends evaporates. You won’t be able to stand listening to them blather on about such topics as global warming, and every time you hear them utter an inanity such as ‘happy wife, happy life’ you will have to force down the desire to take them by the scruff of the neck and whack some much needed sense into them with a 2 by 4.
Eventually you’ll jettison them one by one. Which is where the inherent loneliness of this path takes us, precisely because there are so few people with the courage to stay on it. Once you take the red pill and peer through the matrix, everything changes.
But it is not just red-pilled men who are affected by the normalization of homosexuality. Blue pill men have the same hurdle to overcome in their quest to find male friendship. Just the term male friendship now comes across as being too easily misconstrued. It is a sad state of affairs when men cannot trust each other to form important and healthy bonds for fear of causing inadvertent offense. And I suspect that the cultural Marxist progressives who like nothing more than to shove their agendas down our throats are very satisfied with this state of affairs.