Things don’t have to work out for you.

A reader sent me a link yesterday to a youtube review that a guy at everything geekdom did of ‘Pushing Rubber Downhill’:

It’s always a thrill to hear what a reader thinks of my book but it’s even better when the person really gets it. Two things struck me while listening to the review. The first is that the reviewer mentions the word, ‘growth’ a number of times. It’s another way of saying ‘change’ which is the word I use to describe the same thing, but I think that I like growth even better. And if you’re not growing then you’re decaying.

But what I liked most was when he mentioned the fact that all of the things that I tried doing, all the places that I went, the new jobs I attempted, most of them didn’t work out for me. At least they didn’t work out in the way that I had planned. This is really important.

Most things that you do aren’t going to work out for you.

You need to know this if you’re going to succeed. You can’t put conditions on your success. You certainly can’t road-map your way to how your life is going to be. It just doesn’t work that way. All you can do is put yourself out there.

But this is hard. Because to most of us, if things don’t turn out the way that we planned then we’ve failed. People we know will tell us that we’ve failed. And we will believe them. And this stuff adds up over time. It adds up until you get to the point where you can’t try anything new because you’re afraid of the outcome. You’re afraid of not knowing what will happen. And you’re especially afraid of what people will say.

It doesn’t matter what people think. If anything it helps you identify who you don’t want to have around you in your life.

Putting yourself out there means that you have to get comfortable with the curve-balls of life. You have to see where the ride takes you, and you have to get good at making good decisions. But most of all, you have to realize that when it doesn’t work out the way you planned that can actually be for the better.

That’s what my book is about. It’s a road-map for understanding how to get from A to Z when you thought you were going to B.

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