How is it possible to change your life?

For men today the world is more challenging, confusing, convoluted and unfair than at any point in the last hundred years. To be a straight, white, healthy man is to be discriminated against. It is what I call soft discrimination. There are no laws against being such a man but there are no laws for you either.

If you are a woman then you have special laws based on your gender.

If you are gay then you have special laws based on what you do in the privacy of your home.

If you are disabled then you have special laws.

If you are an ethnic minority then you have special laws.

If you are any religion apart from Catholic or its counterparts then you’ll have special allowances.

If you are a single mother then you’ll get special laws.

If you’re a mother then you’ll nearly always win custody before the father.

In the US a man who falls behind on child support will go to prison but a woman in the same position will not.

In short, “…Federal law protects employees from discrimination or harassment based on sex, race, age, disability, color, creed, national origin, or religion. Employer policies may also protect employees from harassment or discrimination based on sexual orientation or marital status …”

While the above may seem to protect everyone regardless, we all know that more and more it only cuts one way. Generation X and Y often rail against the Baby Boomer generation for a myriad of failings. But their biggest failing, as far as I’m concerned, was legislating straight white men out of existence.

The left will always seek to turn this argument on its head by running strawmen arguments and smokescreens such as:

“But what about black people who get arrested far more than whites?!”

But these are easily countered. Black people have higher arrest and incarceration rates for the simple fact that they commit proportionately more crimes.

This is not a new phenomenon. I noted that this was occurring, in Australia at least, over twenty years ago. Things have not improved. Being a man in this predicament today is very tough. But the harder things get the more people give up, and the more that men give up then the greater the opportunity remaining for those who stick it out. But how does someone not only stick it out but find their way and prosper in these circumstances?

Twenty years ago I was in the same predicament. I was a young man with slim prospects and no idea of what I wanted to be, let alone how to achieve it. I didn’t like myself. I had little self-worth. I was a classic beta male before the term existed. All my peers and friends quietly considered me to be a loser. They were getting married, having kids, pursuing careers, and buying houses. I was going nowhere.

How I got out of that situation is the story in my memoir, “Pushing Rubber Downhill”. The book is a road map for men in today’s convoluted world. It describes how to get from A to Z when you thought you were going to B. I don’t spell out for the reader how to achieve great results in their own life. I simply show through the narrative how I dragged myself out of my personal morass, how I grew as a person, and how I learned to value myself.

I am not so vain that I considered my personal story to be a great inspiration, in fact I never set out to write the book. But a simple post on the 2+2 poker forums called, “On Changing your Life” elicited such a huge response that I was finally inspired to put it down on paper.

In most of the book’s events, things don’t work out for me the way I wanted them to, and that is one of the main points. Things don’t have to work out for you in order for you to change your life, and there are no guarantees that it will go well. But you have to keep pushing through the barriers around you, both those out in the world and the ones that are self-erected. If you follow a set path in life then that is the most you will ever be able to achieve, and you will restrict your achievements to only those within your experience. Thinking outside the box means getting outside the box. You get outside the box by removing yourself from your comfort zone. It is when you do this that you can start to grow.

Today I wouldn’t want to be anyone else in the world. I can’t think of anything better than being me. I hope that all of you someday reach that point too, if you aren’t already there. If my book starts just one of you off on that journey then I will be grateful.

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