20th trait – The modern man gets a second opinion.

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We’re into the twenties on the list:

The modern man gets a second opinion.

You need a second opinion like you need a night out with Emily Ratajkowski. You’ll also need a second opinion on how to pronounce her name. I prefer, ‘you Rat!’ but then again she hasn’t returned any of my calls since I asked her to wear some clothes on my latest music video.

It’s about responsibility. The taking of some for your own actions. The abrogation of responsibility is akin to sticking your head in the sand. You have a legal problem, you find a lawyer, he says ‘X’, and you take that as gospel. All of this is perfectly fine until it doesn’t go the way you wanted. Cue gnashing of teeth, wailing of voice, beating of head against parapet. Why oh why didn’t I get a second opinion??

Because you’re a lazy son of a bitch.

We take the first opinion because we don’t want things to be complicated or messy. We just want to get it over with. Ironically, the situations where you might want to get a second opinion are often complicated and messy by default. Medical diagnosis, legal advice, financial advice. People such as car mechanics, bank loan salesmen, insurance agents, plumbers, builders, the list goes on and on.

Getting a second opinion is crucial but doing your homework in the first place so your first consultation is not only not a waste of time but as good as it can possibly be is also very important. In my book I detailed a complex medical condition that I was battling. If I’d taken the opinion of the first few doctors I would have turned into Steroid Man!™. In the end I found a doctor who gave me the best advice I could find which saved me a great deal of trouble.

Taking responsibility for your life entails a bit of running around. It means you have to make an effort, use your brains, trust your instincts, and perhaps annoy people due to the fact that you’re not going with their so-called wisdom. But idiots are everywhere. How many great bartenders do you know? Not many. Do new restaurants fail all the time because its such a hard business? Nope, people are stupid and lazy. How many people that you work with are next to useless? I bet you could name a few.

Well you can add a few more to that list. Doctors, lawyers, architects, accountants, mechanics, builders, any profession that you can think of is populated by exactly the same percentage of lazy good-for-nothings that reside in the general population. There are very few that are really good at their job.

So if you do no research and take the first opinion that comes your way, you, good sir, are lazy. You don’t take responsibility for your own life. You give away your own personal power. Governments want us to depend on them. They want us to want them to solve our problems. That way they get more and more power. So they teach us from an early age to trust our betters.

Well, I don’t trust anyone. I don’t trust you, and I certainly don’t trust the government. In fact, I’d like to get a second opinion on the government itself but that’s becoming harder to do these days.

Taking responsibility for your life not only allows you to better navigate life’s treacherous waters, it also gives you a distinct advantage over most other people. If the majority of people aren’t taking responsibility for their lives then they are already way behind a person who does. Life is a competitive game, so you need every advantage you can get.

The modern man gets a second opinion.

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