One for the list that you will either love or hate:
The modern man has game.
Game is a term that sprung up in the last decade. There is a great deal of stigma attached to game due to the ‘pick-up artist’ culture that manifested itself at the same time. But they are two completely different things. Pick-up artistry consists of tools and techniques that help you to hit on women. Game is a man’s ability to negotiate complex psychological interactions with women. Because seemingly simple and innocuous interactions are often quite complex, there is sometimes crossover between the two.
We live in a feminized society. Some would argue that this has been the case for over 500 years, but it is only in the last few decades that things have become seriously unbalanced and swung in one direction. For example, it is now somewhat of an unwise decision for young men to attend institutions such as Yale as they may be accused of serious wrongdoing at any time with the automatic presumption of guilt simply because they are male.
In life you are either in front or behind. There is no such thing as equality in nature, it does not exist. It stands to reason that when as a man you are negotiating a personal relationship with women you will also either be in front or behind. The majority of men today are behind. I can’t begin to count the number of guys in my life who have pleaded with me to help them understand what their girlfriend means when she speaks to them. They just want to know; they want the pain to be over. “Tell me so I understand!”
But their girlfriend never wants them to understand, that’s the whole point. Women are quite happy to keep you wrong-footed; that way you’re behind while she’s in front. Even when our young romeo finally seems to get it, the object of his affection will just shift the goalposts as, “it’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind”. You bet it is.
But this “battle between the sexes” has always been the case, and the majority of men have never really got it. The problem now is the extent to which the pendulum has swung towards women’s advantage. In fact, it has swung so far that the covenant between men and women is in danger of breaking. When men decide that it’s not even worth their while to entertain a relationship then the pendulum will begin to swing back on its own weight.
An example just last week has a judge awarding the wife in a divorce settlement the entire family fortune. Even though both parties had frittered away their money the wife:
“… was ruled to be a sensible woman who was probably in need of emotional and psychological comfort during her spending sprees …”
Not actually in need; just probably. The official line is that 50% of marriages end in divorce. That’s bad enough but the true figure probably sits around 70%. Ask any man with those odds going into a marriage if it will happen to him and he’ll scoff at you. We always think that it’s going to happen to that other chump.
But I’m not saying don’t get married. I’m saying, get married with some game. Because you don’t just need good game to negotiate a good beginning of a relationship. You need good game all the way through the relationship. If you don’t, then you’ll be behind, and today that is a seriously unwise decision.
And it is your decision. Remember, we’re all about taking responsibility for our own actions as men, right? If you think that improving your skills to deal with women make you “a bad person”, or “a loser”, or “only jerks do that”, then you’ve swallowed the feminist kool-aid hook, line, and sinker. If you want to become better at public speaking then you do a public speaking course and you practice. If you want to become a better business negotiator then you do the same thing. Nobody will think less of your attempts to improve yourself.
But try to improve your skills at interacting with women? Oh boy, do the claws come out. From the majority of women and from the majority of men too. A bunch of crabs in a barrel will never allow another crab to climb out. The reason for this is that it is a threat to them. Their final fall-back is that you will undoubtedly use your newly found ‘super powers’ for dealing with women in a bad and evil way. Their definition of bad or evil is anything that puts them at a disadvantage.
I grew up before the internet. I spent the first 20 years of my adult life learning these lessons the hard way. I can’t believe some of the literature that is out there now to help men and it is only because of the internet that it got out there in the first place. The internet allowed men from all over the world to talk to each other via forums in a way that had never been possible before. I could only dream to have had these books in my hands when I was a young man. Satisfyingly for me, after reading a few of them it turns out I did work out the lessons on my own, but it was very hard going and I was extremely lucky at times along the way.
There are many books you can read but if you only read one then my recommendation is The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. If right now the thought of purchasing that book disgusts you in some way then you really need to read it.
The modern man has game.