Aaron Clarey has a video up eviscerating the pretend MGTOW movement. That stands for Men going their own way. Apparently they have a symbol and everything that they stick on the back of their motorcycles. Aaron dissects the men who are using MGTOW as a crutch and substitute for their failures from those men who go their own way because they don’t want to buy into the blue pill life that modern society demands of them.
I’m writing about this because Aaron uses me as an example of what a real MGTOW is. He does this at around the 20 minute mark. If you have no idea of MGTOW or of virgin-TOWs as Aaron calls them, then watch the video so I don’t have to do all the explaining here.
If I was going to provide one quote that I consider best sums up my life, I would use the one that is most often attributed to Groucho Marx:
I would never want to belong to any club that would have someone like me as a member.
As Aaron says, it doesn’t matter if you identify as an atheist, or a conservative, or a libertarian, or an SJW. If you let a group define your self-identity then you have no identity. There are two types of homosexuals. The first type happen to be gay but it does not define who they are. The second type base their entire identity around the fact that they are homosexual.
Individuals with a true identity, and thus a true sense of self-worth, are firmly rooted in their place in the world. They are complex individuals who have had to do a lot of personal hard work to reach their current position as a person. People who avoid this hard work instinctively latch onto a group-identity to substitute for their own lack of self-worth. This is why a homosexual who bases their entire identity around being gay is very easily insulted by any perceived slight towards homosexuality. Any criticism of homosexuality, however mild, will be interpreted as a personal attack on them.
If a guy actively identifies as an MGTOW then his entire focus will be based around what it means to be part of the group. Instead of ‘going his own way’ his life will devolve into an endless search for validation within the context of the group. This quickly turns into an unhealthy inward focus as group members struggle to prove their own worthiness to each other while simultaneously actively seeking out any outside criticism in order to ‘destroy a foe’ and subsequently raise their own status.
Feminism works exactly the same way which is why it is pointless to debate them and goes some way to explaining some of their behavior.
So do I identify as an MGTOW? Well it should be clear to you by now that I don’t identify as anything. I simply am who I am as the great Popeye once said. But my actions and circumstances are conducive to what is known as a MGTOW and they have been for most of my adult life.
One of the earliest posts on this blog was titled, Are you a sheep or a master of your own destiny? True MGTOWs are masters of their own destiny. The ability to think for oneself and to not live in a perpetual bubble is very far from the norm. A group identity is simply that of a sheep with the identity of the group acting as a nice coat of fluffy wool. Comforting but ultimately self-defeating.
If you want to read about someone who stopped being a sheep and began an adventure to discover a sense of purpose and personal identity, grab my book.