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This week I caught a great comment on The Advice Goddess blog on the topic of female only spaces at universities. I’m re-posting the comment in full as it brings up a bunch of salient points:
Women are dysfunctional
There is so much win in this post it’s hard to know where to begin. Let’s start with the topic of women being dysfunctional in groups. Anyone who has ever been in this situation knows that this is true for the most part, (yes yes, I know – there was this one group that one time with a woman who was awesome and it was the best experience ever. I don’t care. Once again the exception proves the rule.)
I once was on quite good terms with a girl who worked as a waitress at a major strip-club in London. This girl was very level headed and she used to regale me with stories of the manager of all the girls in the club. She was called, ‘The Mother’. Her job was to stop all of the constant bickering and infighting and she did it with an iron personality that took no prisoners. Apparently it was the only method that worked and it is quite standard in that industry. I assume that the traditional head nurse performed a similar function in hospitals back in the day.
Women are dysfunctional not because they are bad but because they are primarily emotional in nature. This means that their moods swing wildly up and down, a roller-coaster of emotions. Two or three of these together makes for interesting times indeed. The best solution as described here is simple segregation. Why do you think that men-only clubs were quite prevalent up to just a couple of decades ago? Oh, that’s right – the patriarchy!
Men shine in groups with a common goal or purpose.
Get a bunch of guys together to achieve a goal and most of the time it works as described in the comment above. Men get off on contributing to a group. In this context they tend to lift their game as to not do so would let down the group as a whole. Notice how the commentor states that all of them did a little bit more work than needed. Women tend to get bitchy when this happens as their natural assumption is that you did more to show them up. It is difficult for them to conceive that there might be another motive at play.
Conversely, if a man is not pulling his weight the other guys won’t tend to whisper behind his back. He will usually be called out on his free-rolling behavior and told to lift his effort or he’ll be out of the group. This exchange will not be emotional. It will be plain speaking and based on logic. The usual course of action is that the slacker will improve his performance.
Women want what they cannot have.
Tell the average guy that he can’t come in a group and his reaction will usually be one of miffed indifference. “You don’t want me in? Okay, your loss.” Only low status men run around crying and complaining that they aren’t welcome somewhere. Women however, become immediately obsessed with obtaining something that is forbidden to them. They will start with coy tactics in an attempt to appeal to men’s lower base nature. If this fails then the subsequent stock-standard line is to question the men’s masculinity. Accusing men who group together of being gay is pathetically routine in this instance. And it’s also hilarious when some of these same women will scream homophobia at the drop of a hat if you dare to question their stance on gay marriage for instance. But then, we’re not talking about logical beings here.
Notice also what would happen if you did acquiesce and let them into the group. Once they get what they want on an emotional level they cease to be infatuated with it. The woman now in the group won’t understand the male camaraderie and she will be threatened by it.
“Is this all that you guys do here?” she will say in a disparaging manner. “I thought that there was much more interesting stuff going on.”
The inference is that the men are boring. If the men take the hook they will try to make it more “exciting” for her which will begin to erode what they originally had. The woman will inevitably turn the group’s focus around to being solely about her. The men who wish to sleep with her at all costs will play along with this while the men who aren’t as desperate and who possess some measure of self-worth will eventually leave in disgust. I have seen this play out over my life, time and time again.
Men-only spaces and clubs are not only a great thing, they are a necessary thing. Hopefully we will start to see their return. Women-only groups are a good idea as well. As long as they have a strong and unwavering Mother.