A new book by Fox news contributor and PJ media columnist Suzanne Venker is titled The Alpha female’s guide to men and marriage: How love works. There is only one problem with that title and that is the fact that there is no such thing as an alpha female. Now I’m sure that Venker means well and believes that she is really doing her bit to combat feminist tropes, seeing as she is apparently a “nationally recognized expert on America’s current gender war”. But this is no excuse for propagating such a falsehood.
Venker describes these so-called alpha females as women who have been groomed to be ultra-competitive, who argue with their husbands at any opportunity, and who want to be the boss. This type of wife wants to be in charge of everything and everyone. She micromanages, delegates, and tries to make all if the decisions. I bet that they would make simply outstanding backseat drivers.
But we don’t need some wholly invented and imaginary term to describe women like this. There are already plenty. How about bitch, shrew, or harridan just for starters? We could add scold, nag, banshee, harpy, battle-axe, dragon lady, fury, or vixen. History is replete with examples of these types of women. Any man so unfortunate as to marry one usually endured a life of utter misery.
The only difference between these historic women and their modern incarnations is the fact that these types of behaviors have been actively encouraged in young women. Instead of being sent to finishing schools where they once learned the arts of feminine mystique as a wife and mother, now they go to universities that indoctrinate them in the wonderment that is cultural Marxist feminist puppetry. We have been grooming harridans, but instead of acknowledging the need to start over from scratch, Venker seems to want to celebrate this new awfulness.
The blurb for her book includes this snippet:
America is in love with the alpha female. She’s the quintessential modern woman—assertive, razor sharp, and fully in control. Her success in the marketplace is undeniable, a downright boon to society.
If any of you have had the unfortunate displeasure of working with these modern women then I doubt very much that you would urinate on them if they caught on fire, let alone be in love with them. Their success in the marketplace is due to thirty years of stacking the odds in their favor. Mind you, this is only if you count success as your own personal fortune, much less the damage that you do to the business you work for. But the next part of the blurb is even worse.
But what happens when the alpha female gets married?
She becomes an alpha wife, of course.
But they’re not getting married because men don’t want to marry them. Women swallowed the great lie that they could have it all and then they compounded it with the even bigger mistake of assuming that men are attracted to the same things that they are, namely power, money, and success. But unless they’re a moocher, men don’t find those things attractive at all. Men are attracted to tits and ass. That’s it. Oh, and a woman who can keep her big fat mouth shut once in a while.
But an extract from her new book betrays Venker’s bias:
All a good man wants is for his wife to be happy, and he will go to great lengths to make it happen. He’ll even support his wife’s ideas, plans or opinions if he doesn’t agree with them. That’s because a husband’s number one goal is to please his wife.
Notice the assertion that a good man is one who wants to please his wife, the assumption being that not catering to her every whim will land you in the dog house. He’ll even turn into a brainless moron with no conflicting ideas of his own, all in the servitude to the feminine imperative.
But the last line is the real kicker. If your number one goal as a husband is to please your wife then she will treat you like a doormat. Women want a man who puts them second. Or third. Or even someplace else down the line. They want a man who has a mission in life and who is happy to bring her into his orbit as something complimentary to him. But as soon as a husband makes his wife his mental point of origin then she loses all respect and desire for him. Women do not want a fawning man, no matter what they may say on the subject.
What I am saying is that men tend to follow women’s lead. Your husband’s actions are more often than not reactions. He’s reacting to something you said or did, or to something you didn’t say or didn’t do. He’s reacting to your moods, your gestures, your inflections and your tone. That’s how men are.
No, that’s how men act who have been hen-pecked to within an inch of their lives. Men who were so stupid as to marry a harridan; sorry, sorry – an alpha female. Men who have been so weak as to not set the relationship within their own frame.
This hijacking of masculine terms such as alpha and beta is symptomatic of the feminization of our society. That’s bad enough, but Venker is hawking her book by telling women that all they need to do is to be nice to their husbands once in a while and normality will be restored to the household. This is patently false. A relationship like this is inevitably doomed because the couple exist in the wife’s frame. If the man “tends to follow the woman’s lead” as she writes then he is operating from within her frame. That is the number one reason why she is being a bitch to him. This entire book is simply a plea for women to stop shit-testing their men, but the reason that women shit-test their men in this way is because their men have not been strong enough to stand up and make their women operate in their own frame.
Venker could have easily made her book about one sentence long:
Dump your man and go find one who won’t put up with your shit.
But that probably wouldn’t sell quite as well.