Adam Piggott

Gentleman adventurer

Is male friendship the ghey?

A message I received on Linkedin recently:

Hi Adam I came across you on the Shitlord Hub. You have a damn fine blog. I’d like to buy you lunch. No gay.

I had to chuckle at the ‘no gay’ part, although it would have been funnier as ‘no ghey’. But on reflection I found it less and less amusing, and the reason for my unease was the motivations behind why the gentlemen added this caveat in the first place.

Back in the days when men were real men, women were real women, and the gays kept their heads down and hid behind locked toilet cubicles, this sort of thing was entirely unnecessary. A man would no more think that another man had possible homosexual intentions by asking him out to lunch than the Liberal party would announce a big spending budget fueled by a tax grab.

The push of homosexuality as an acceptable lifestyle choice has had the effect on male friendship of queering the pitch so to speak. It is not that a man is repelled by other men in his efforts to form friendships, rather that he himself hesitates to reach out and make such an offer for fear that his gesture will be misconstrued as having nefarious homosexual undertones.

Thus it becomes all too easy to second guess oneself in this matter. Too often the gesture to have a beer or have lunch is not made, simply because an individual feels uneasy at the thought of his gesture being mistaken for something else. Even if a man does push past this barrier he still feels the need to add the caveat that no misintention is implied.

Perhaps because this also can go both ways. What if an invitation to lunch is made but the recipient might be very happy for that to proceed to a dalliance of the homosexual sort? Now the simple act of proposing a beer just to have a chat becomes even more fraught and complicated. Does he think I’m gay for making this offer? And even worse, would he be happy with that?

This may sound like a bit of a joke but men lately are having a very hard time forming genuine friendships. It is by far the number one topic for which I receive requests for advice. It is particularly challenging to find like-minded male friends in this day and age. I spoke yesterday at the importance for men to seek a path of individual truth. That is all well and good but the big problem with such a path lies in its inherent loneliness.

Once you begin to question what is regarded as common knowledge you will quickly find that your patience level with your friends evaporates. You won’t be able to stand listening to them blather on about such topics as global warming, and every time you hear them utter an inanity such as ‘happy wife, happy life’ you will have to force down the desire to take them by the scruff of the neck and whack some much needed sense into them with a 2 by 4.

Eventually you’ll jettison them one by one. Which is where the inherent loneliness of this path takes us, precisely because there are so few people with the courage to stay on it. Once you take the red pill and peer through the matrix, everything changes.

But it is not just red-pilled men who are affected by the normalization of homosexuality. Blue pill men have the same hurdle to overcome in their quest to find male friendship. Just the term male friendship now comes across as being too easily misconstrued. It is a sad state of affairs when men cannot trust each other to form important and healthy bonds for fear of causing inadvertent offense. And I suspect that the cultural Marxist progressives who like nothing more than to shove their agendas down our throats are very satisfied with this state of affairs.


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  1. Yagi

    Hey like your blog let’s grab a beer or two or more

  2. John Coe

    Bollocks to the lot of them! Let’s all of us grab half a dozen cartons and go sit in the park!

  3. Carl-Edward

    Male camaraderie is a wonderful thing, and is nothing to do with homosexuality. Certainly, few people of either sex are worth cultivating now, as most are wanting in intelligence, knowledge, imagination and sophistication.

    I seem to remember reading an article some years back wherein the writer stated that the Australian custom of men becoming: ‘mates’ had died out. I do not remember whether he explained this. Can you?

  4. The Hood

    Sums it up perfectly…

  5. Brandon

    I have always been a person willing to change my views if experience or better arguments prove me wrong. This was fortunate because as a young man I obviously talked twaddle most of the time. In fairness I usually have to do the rethinking for myself because most people I know – and since I got red pilled women in particular – argue from a sentimental, conformist premise.

    These days it is hard to have a debate because you have to keep back tracking to establish the pillars of the other person’s argument. When I was younger I used to sometimes stop an argument and give the other person tips on the weaknesses of MY own argument, just to even things out. People are often wedded to positions they are unable to defend.

    Searching for truth is quite disconcerting. About ten years ago I realised that I had gradually repudiated every view I had previously lived by or passionately argued for; I’d found them all wanting. It was exhausting. I’ve since rejected a few more; minor things such as catastrophic global warming, Darwinian evolution and the European Union.

    But recently I’ve found my few male friends are variously bemused, repelled or appalled. Male friendship has to contend with men’s tendency to competition. But mates I have known decades will say: “But you said in 1997?!” “But you argued the opposite in 2015!” I recently argued that “food poverty” does not exist in any meaningful sense and a friend later told me my views “scared” him. Moving from left to right does not help of course. Former friends take it personally.

    I also seem to bring the communist out in people. Particularly when I point out Food banks do not equate with poverty, the migrant crisis is a manufactured mass trafficking conspiracy, the Conservative Party is on most issues a party of the Centre-Left; the National Health Service is bloated, inefficient and regularly kills its customers; UKIP do not have racist policies, Trump is a good President and infinitely superior to Obama, etc.

    “Which is where the inherent loneliness of this path takes us, precisely because there are so few people with the courage to stay on it.” Maybe I’ll make some new friends.

    • Ciaran Saigir

      Your story is almost exactly like mine Brandon, though I wasn’t even in primary school in 1997 so I guess you’ll be ahead of the curve compared to me with regards to life experiences as my outlook is still changing rapidly. I was a lefty atheist in my teens (how original), yet now in my early to mid-20s I have become an ultra-reactionary Christian (Roman Catholic as it stands). I had an argument with a school friend last year, who I used to agree 100% with and who was utterly astounded at my ideological shift. The way an authentic rightist thinks is so utterly divorced from so-called normies’ thinking that it’s hard to even communicate our arguments because the framework of our outlook is different down to the very deepest foundations, and it would take hours at least to fully flesh things out; given the nature of our ideological adversaries, we rarely have time to do this. Their world-view is so flat and simplistic, yet in their ignorance they are convinced of their genius. Try criticising any of the touchstone issues you mentioned and expect a barrage of pure manufactured neurosis.

      I was interested by your mention of rejecting Darwinian evolution. What drew you to that conclusion? I’ve never properly explored the counterbalance to this argument. What resources would you recommend to learn more about this.

      On the topic of new friends, I’m interested in making connections with fellow outcasts from the great liberal deception – I’m assuming you’re also British?

  6. It’s been my observation that the biggest threat to the feminist movement is men congregating in private groups where women aren’t allowed. I think that’s where this movement started. Whether it’s women forcing their way into all male military academies and private golf courses or simply throwing a fit every time their husband wants to leave the house for a couple hours, I think it’s a deliberate act and I think men should fight back against it. Men in groups have a tendency to solidify quickly into a force to be reckoned with. When they’re not worried what their wife will think.

    • Ciaran Saigir

      I’ve noticed this in the Church especially. I think it was the real death knell of Anglicanism.

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