This is a repost of a previous article.
I recently watched a video by a chap on how to cure an approval addiction. His advice came down to this little snippet:
“Learn to feel okay with not feeling okay.”
As a fully recovered approval addict I’m not too impressed with this advice. It might sound acceptable to some of you, but in essence the very act of seeking approval is because you don’t feel okay. The speaker is trying to tell us that this can never be cured and you must just learn to live with it. He is effectively saying that change is not possible. I disagree with this message. Here is his video: