The sound women make when they run into the wall.

An article written by a woman that laments the fact that traditional marriages and relationships are falling apart, to the disadvantage of women. It’s an important point; if Tinder was working out in women’s favor there wouldn’t be any griping about it. But it turns out that giving men access to loads of women causes men to lose interest in entering committed relationships.

Let us not forget however, that these women themselves are perfectly willing to sleep with men whom they found by swiping an app a few hours earlier, a fact which seems to have been lost on the writer concerned. News flash, sweetheart: it takes two to tango.

Sexual liberation is a fabulous thing – in some ways. But it can also turn men into louts, because women don’t expect much in return for access.

It’s a fabulous thing for women who get to have no-strings-attached sex, but it’s not a fabulous thing if men get the same deal. Women who have lots of sex with multiple partners that they meet on the internet are “liberated” and “finding their inner passion” I presume, while the men of course are simply louts for doing the exact same thing.

There follows a great deal of wailing and complaining that there aren’t any marriageable men to be found, (another hot tip for you gals out there: the marriageable men are not inclined to marry chicks who sleep with strangers that they meet on Tinder – just throwing that out there, crazy eh?)

But right at the beginning of the piece there was this little unintended gem:

Single women are more equal and empowered than ever before. They have unparalleled sexual, reproductive and economic autonomy. In many ways, they’re doing much better than the men. (Just look at the lopsided university graduation rates, which are now around 60-40). And yet, large numbers of young women admit their private lives are a sad mess.

It’s funny, but “doing much better than men” doesn’t sound like equal to me. It sounds unfair. But leaving that aside, the gals have economic autonomy. How great for them. But what impact might this have on traditional relationships?

It used to be that men and women each had something the other really needed. Men needed access to sex. Women needed access to resources. Men couldn’t get steady access to sex unless they had resources to offer, so they worked hard for them. The partnership between men and women was a grand bargain that (usually) left both sides better off.

Incredibly enough, the writer does not make the obvious connection that since women are now economically autonomous they don’t need men to provide for them anymore. The traditional partnership was broken by women. Instead she goes off on a rant about how men are getting lots of sex so they don’t want a relationship, oh woe is us wymens.  Yet another example of the subconscious feminine imperative at work.

So the women got their sexual liberation, thereby throwing away a core asset that made them attractive to men for long term commitment, and then they got their economic freedom, which meant that they didn’t require men as providers. As a result from their early twenties into their early thirties, the years where they are most attractive to men, they use up all of this precious time in a wasteful excess of “having it all”. And then what happens? What happens when they get this sudden inkling that they may not be quite as in control as they originally thought?

Spend a little time with single women in their early to mid-30s, and you’ll be grateful you’re not one of them. The relationship scene is even more dismal today than when I was their age. All the women want serious relationships that lead to marriage, but many of the men they meet do not. All too often a woman moves in with some guy, hoping they’re on the road to somewhere. Two years later, he tells her he’s not ready for marriage and kids just yet. Splat.

Let’s pick apart this paragraph and find out just why things are shaping up in this manner.

Spend a little time with women in their early to mid-30s, and you’ll be grateful you’re not one of them.

Unintentionally and hilariously accurate.

The relationship scene is even more dismal today than when I was their age.

Due to the fact that back then women were still nice to men because they needed a provider.

All the women want serious relationships that lead to marriage, but many of the men they meet do not.

Men know that they will be severely disadvantaged financially and emotionally if there is a divorce, over 70% of which are initiated by women, there will be a high chance that their estranged wife will use his own children against him, and men can get all the sex that they want with no commitment from sites like Tinder. What possible reasons are there for a man to marry a woman in her 30s who has spent her glory years sleeping around and slaving away in a cubicle when he can pick and choose from women in their early 20s who have not made the same catastrophic mistakes?

Ladies, you are in competition with each other, and the older you get the more the number of younger, firmer, prettier, and nicer girls that are tapping you on the shoulder and telling you to stand aside.

All too often a woman moves in with some guy, hoping they’re on the road to somewhere.

Here’s a little sexual market ugly reality for your girls out there – if you move in with a guy before you get married, the chances will be very high that he won’t consider you as marriage potential.

Two years later, he tells her he’s not ready for marriage and kids just yet.

See what I mean?

Splat.

That’s the sound of these women running headlong into the wall. Once again, unintentionally and hilariously accurate. Why is that the case? Because the predicament that these women find themselves in is not down to the mythical patriarchy, it is not down to men being brutes and cads, and nor is it down to simple bad luck. It is entirely the result of their own actions. These women chose to put off marriage to an age where they would be in competition with younger and more attractive women. They chose to prioritize their careers over the supposed drudgery of being a wife and mother. They were not forced to make these choices, although one could argue that they were encouraged in such willful excess by other women promoting the glorious and sophistical feminist mantra that “women can have it all”.

Now they must live with the consequences of their actions. There is no more fitting outcome for the willfully foolish. Let their misery be a severe and living example for the generations of women to follow.

 

 

12 thoughts on “The sound women make when they run into the wall.

  1. Caligula

    “All the women want serious relationships that lead to marriage, but many of the men they meet do not.”

    And what’s even more “unfair” is, the few acceptable men who do still want a “serious relationship” are looking for something better than you. And, yes, they get to define “better.”

    Which, of course, doesn’t mean they won’t take what’s offered if you offered it.

    The bottom line is, she considers men “louts” for looking out for their own interests, yet would never question the rightness of women doing the same regarding their own interests.

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  2. TechieDude

    I love these articles. They come within inches of recognizing the problem, and solution, and walk away. There was an article I read awhile back, I’m sure I was just surfing and stumbled on it. It was written by a woman much like this only the message she had was that Sex Ed/Health classes in high school had a moral imperative to teach how a woman’s biology works, and that it was best if you were wanting kids, to do it sooner rather than later. So her advice to college girls was that if you even had an inkling that you may want a kid, then you should start looking for husband material in college. You’d never be around a bigger pool of guys with potential and if you wait to until you are settled in a career the likelyhood you would find a mate was slim to none.

    Too much candor for the feminists, she was pilloried as I recall.I know a number of women that married up in their early thirties. They either pick an immigrant of some sort (from a patriarchal culture) or find a beta. My nieces most certainly found betas. It’s almost embarrassing to be around them.

    I have a couple women friends that are divorced. One, a few years back when she was in her 40s asked if I had any single dude friends. Had to let her down. I did, of course. Monied, single/divorced early, no baggage, living the life friends roughly her age. It was tough to tell her that the women they were dating (and having no trouble getting them) were all in their late 20s, early thirties. These dudes know what they are all about and won’t go near a late 30s and older woman with baggage or hangups, even for just sex. Just not on their radar.

    Didn’t tell her this, but after a period, she’ll become attractive to old dudes in their sixties whose wives died, are beyond, or just beyond sex, and just want companionship.

    Seen that a bunch as well. To a man, they protect their assets though.

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  3. Such a deal. These women seem to be looking for a sperm donor with a wallet. Then they wonder why men won’t take them up on it.

    Women need their own red pill. I would bet most men would leap at a young woman who said, “I want to be your wife and the mother of your children,” and meant every bit of it. “I want to have a career and check off the children box on my bucket list,” not so much.

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  4. BWV

    One thing that I think is important in this whole failing traditional relationship dynamic is the philosophy that so many modern women seem to have absorbed from somewhere. It has two main components that are:

    1) Happiness is the most important thing.
    2) It wasn’t meant to be.

    Rule 1 allows her to escape any situation that isn’t pleasing to her. Rule 2 allows her to escape any guilt because something/someone other than herself has ordained that is isn’t meant to be.

    No one will be happy – at the level they’d like to be happy at – with their marriage 100% of the time. We all know this.

    And when that time comes, she will reason thus:

    I used to be really happy when this relationship started.
    I’m not happy now.
    Happiness is the most important thing.
    Therefore this wasn’t meant to be.

    And having gone through that process, she will call a lawyer and contribute her fair share to the 70% of divorces initiated by women.

    I say all that to say this: Any woman, regardless of age, education, financial situation or hotness… who in any way believes Rule 1 or Rule 2 or Both – is not, and likely never will be, mentally stable enough for marriage.

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  5. LadyMoonlight

    I will always remember a saying my mother was fond of repeating, often. “Most men are not interested in a woman who will not sleep with them and they sure as hell are not interested in a woman who would!”

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  7. areukittenme

    It is hard for women to accept that there are consequences when the left has served up life on a silver platter. The problem is that equality is a lie. We aren’t equal, just different.

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  8. pavetack

    “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” my father used to say. It drove me crazy when he said that. Now, it’s dawned on me that he was right.

    Feel the burn.

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  9. squid_hunt

    “The partnership between men and women was a grand bargain that (usually) left both sides better off.”

    If you have what you want, why would you go looking for something else? Middle age regret is an ugly, ugly thing.

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