Parents want their kids to be labeled autistic to excuse their own failings.

With the explosion of single mothers, (over 40% at this point compared to a traditional family unit), the almost casual acceptance of divorce as being just another stage of life, and the majority of families having both parents work, the nuclear family which once provided the bedrock upon which children could be brought up in a stable and secure environment has been under sustained attack for some time.

Tracking the implosion of the nuclear family over the last few decades has been the simultaneous rise of behavioral problems amongst children, particularly with regards to autism and ADHD. It has become almost a badge of honor among modern parents that their child has one of these conditions. I have long been dubious at the explosion in these cases – to me it was simply lazy parents who hadn’t bothered putting in the work to discipline their child who wanted an easy way out of their bad choices. A diagnosis of autism or ADHD tells the parents that not only have they not been neglectful but they are in fact victims deserving of unearned sympathy.

Now a respected British doctor, a former president of the Royal College of Psychiatrists no less, has finally spoken up about this colossal betrayal of children.

Parents want their kids to be labeled autistic to excuse their own failings.

But, very often, the children I see with these diagnoses plainly have not got these conditions at all. Instead, they happen to be troublesome children reacting to awful situations in their families.

To put it bluntly, they are heartily sick of being tossed around on a sea of adult wishes. But, instead of being listened to, they get labelled with a disorder. These incorrect diagnoses are deeply damaging. Yet, I am one of the very few child specialists who are fighting against this trend.

So why is this chilling over-labelling of the nation’s children taking place? First and foremost, it is my view that some parents love a diagnosis. It lets them off the hook because it means their child’s behaviour is not their problem or their fault. They do not have to address their own role in their children’s unhappiness.

It should be readily apparent that this trend is complete nonsense for the simple reason that it only exists to the extent that it does in Anglo-Saxon nations. Is there some sort of disease that is only affecting the children of these countries and not others? Well as a matter of fact there is; it’s called cultural Marxism.

In some cases boasting of these diagnoses can be a middle-class parent’s way of dodging responsibility for how their child has turned out. I won’t be popular for saying it, but a diagnosis can be a guaranteed way of reducing the stigma of their child’s awful and embarrassing behaviour among family, friends and teachers.

I think he’s underestimated how unpopular he will be for pointing this out by a factor of 25 Hiroshima’s. I fully expect a groveling apology to come within a week.

What these children are lacking are healthy relationships with their parents, or even any adults in general. Teachers were used as suitable substitutes in this regard for many years, but now they have morphed into mind control freaks pushing lines of “white privilege” to 8 year olds.

At heart our Anglo-Saxon societies have thrown away our own cultures due to embracing the lie of multiculturalism. In doing so we have systematically destroyed our communities. We have seen a huge erosion of trust. Parents are no longer allowed to let their children go down the street by themselves to play in the park. This is now considered neglect, which is deeply ironic when you consider that parents who allow their children to play freely and without ridiculous rules are probably among the few parents who are not neglectful.

But parents who foster no relationship with their children; who do them the supreme disservice of not disciplining them and provide them with no clear boundaries of behavior; who abrogate their responsibilities onto teachers who themselves no longer perform the function for which they were originally employed; who then wave away this atrocious neglect by jumping on a misdiagnosis as a means to hide their abusive behavior; and then to top it all off use it as a means of virtue signaling while their kids get pumped full of drugs so as to turn them into near zombies, these parents are considered to be perfectly acceptable in our brave new world.

It’s almost as if the only thing left is to pray for a giant flood to wash us all away so as to provide a clean slate to begin again.

14 thoughts on “Parents want their kids to be labeled autistic to excuse their own failings.

  1. Hedgehog

    Bless you for pointing this out. There is also the consideration that if one is an unwed single mother and has a “disabled” child, one is entitled to a panopoly of state subsidies, benefits, etc. Never underestimate the desire of people to abuse their children in the pursuit of “free” money.

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    1. David Moore

      “Never underestimate the desire of people to abuse their children in the pursuit of “free” money.”

      Compound that with never underestimating a woman’s need for attention too.

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      1. “Never underestimate the desire of people to abuse their children in the pursuit of “free” money.”

        “Compound that with never underestimating a woman’s need for attention too.”

        Don’t forget the typical modern woman’s ‘need for drama’, either.
        These ‘autistic diagnoses’ sound a lot like “Munchausen Syndrome by proxy”.

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  2. earl

    ‘It’s almost as if the only thing left is to pray for a giant flood to wash us all away so as to provide a clean slate to begin again.’

    See you down in Arizona Bay.

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  3. areukittenme

    The few parents of autistic children that I have met were happily married and the diagnosis was in the first 2 years of life. I think it has more to do with gut bacteria – the mother’s diet and antibiotic use before and during pregnancy. These children have obvious neurological problems.

    Bad behaviour in children suffering from the consequences of parents who divorce and/or from parental neglect is rife and tragic. Doctors have to discriminate between the two.

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  4. Mr Black

    Heartiste had a bit up a little while ago showing a strong correlation between obesity during pregnancy and real autism. But women aren’t going to take responsibility for making their own kid retarded.

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  5. LadyMoonlight

    If any of my colleagues read this article, they would think it had been written by me, or, I had been an advisor to you and this doctor. I have been saying this for years and years. I call such kids alphabet kids. I no longer bother to read the reports put out by the Year Advisors at school…”Little Johnny has ADD, ODD, Austism…”, “Little Janet has PTSD (in year 7 mind you) and suffers from anxiety”.
    I have never understood a parent who has a kid with “anxiety”, and it’s almost as if they nurture the anxiety, water it, feed it and allow it to grow. I have said for years that if a child is not as intelligent as a parent hoped, or is an undisciplined little brat, then just slap a label on them so the parent doesn’t look bad.
    My colleagues cannot help but smile when I replace what little Johnny has…ADD, ok so you mean undisciplined, ODD, ok so you really mean rude and obnoxious, Autism, ok so you really mean unsettled and unable to cope, even if they do think I am oh so totally wrong.
    What is on the rise amongst kids is anxiety….cannot come to school, why? anxiety. Seeing a psychologist, why? anxiety. ADD has worn out its welcome, too bratty. Autism is the big one now but anxiety will soon take its place.
    I have told several students that they suffer from NSD…What’s that miss? What pill do you take for that? NSD means No Self-Discipline…confuses them a tad!

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  6. Post Alley Crackpot

    Then there’s the flip side of this where the parents have one kid who’s a super-genius whereas all of the other kids they’ve had are absolute dimwits or worse …

    The parents will make life hell for that super-genius kid because he’s the only thing that’s going to redeem their otherwise mediocre existence, and they’ll push push push on him to get into The Best School and to get The Best Job and so forth, all so they can ride on the coat-tails of his future notoriety and fame.

    Later in life he will inevitably realise that he lived through a horrible childhood and will not thank his parents for the crap they’ve put him through, and he may choose to seek his notoriety and fame in private so the entire sordid lot of them can’t even grasp at straws.

    If he becomes an actor, he’ll assume a very different stage name; if he becomes a writer, he’ll assume a very different pen name; if he goes into business instead, he’ll seek shelter behind the names of many corporations and choose to be a Milo Minderbinder figure rather than a Donald Trump figure.

    Because his siblings have similarly given him aggro and crap over the years as competitors rather than supporters, he may not lift a finger to help any of them, and if he does, it’s out of a coarsely hewn sense of guilt that his parents happened to inflict upon him as a burden, not as anything these siblings necessarily tend to deserve.

    As for that flood you’ve been wishing for, chances are very good that he’s working on it, at least within a well-contained area for starters.

    Most people don’t understand that “Great Expectations” by Charles Dickens can be interpreted from a dystopian viewpoint in much the same way that “Don Quixote de la Mancha” was interpreted this way by Nabokov: the protagonist’s ordeal is and always was one gigantic shit test.

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  7. These things come and go in cycles. Back when I was a child in the Palaeolithic age the fashionable disability for your kid to have was dyslexia. At one point I think half my class of 9/10 year olds had been diagnosed as dyslexic. The symptoms were pushy middle class parents who thought that their children’s poor school performance might reflect badly on them. Now dyslexia is almost forgotten. Hopefully ADD, ADHD and ‘autism spectrum’ disorders will go the same way. Incidentally, for today’s annoying parents, if you can’t get your kid diagnosed as full-blown autistic there’s certain to be a place on the ‘autism spectrum’ for him or her somewhere.

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  9. RS

    More than excusing parents’ failings, the desire is to obtain some advantage in the “Victim Olympics.” The number of parents of children in college prep schools who seek to have a label stuck on their kids in order to get more time for exams or other special treatment is legion. But, don’t ever, ever have an actual record of this because it might hurt the poor dears when they apply to an Ivy League college . . . unless it helps by providing grist for an essay about overcoming hardship and “oppression.”

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  10. Phil Ossified

    I was diagnosed High Functioning Autism in 1977, before Kindergarten. My parents said: “send him to school; he’ll have to make it on his own.” They kept all the “help” to a bare minimum, and somehow, in spite of the “disability” I managed to get through school and college, and be gainfully employed.

    Fast forward to 2011: my son failed his pre-K screening just as I did, and was given the same diagnosis as me. I’ve done the same for him as my parents did for me: he goes to school and has to make it.

    There is a difference now, though. There is more money given to the school for each ASD child, so the incentive to see him as “disabled “ is great. I fight them tooth and nail to treat him “normal” and keep the “help” to a minimum.

    RS and squawkbox are right; there are a lot of victim points to be accumulated among the parents. I have never been to a “support group” meeting for ASD parents, and I do not let on about my son’s diagnosis (except here—-shh). Someday he is going to have to make a life for himself; claiming he is a victim is not going to be an option.

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  11. TechieDude

    The timing of this piece was awesome. I was reading it while visiting the mother in law, where the brother in law was going on and on about his trials and tribulations with the son.

    As I recall, the kid was diagnosed ADHD or some such thing. Mother is a freak show. Father is a bum. For whatever reason they’ve coddled him. Now, he has a 22 year old monster he can’t get out of his house. What kills me is his point of view about such a large car insurance nut he has to pay for the kid, as if paying your 22 year olds insurance was normal.

    My son has a friend that the diagnosed with ADHD back in middle school. Gave him mind numbing drugs. His problem? He’s was a boy that needed guidance, and maybe a shove. Now, I marvel at the parents with two kids, both int their 20s, living at home, useless.

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