A female executive banker has a good cry about how horrible it is to face the reality of being one of those high-powered career women. You know; the strong and independent ones. Her big complaint is that her male colleagues are making her infertile. How is this possible, a perfectly reasonable and sane person might wonder.
When you’re a woman in your mid-30s, fertility is not a given. If you’re working 80 hours a week and are exhausted, conceiving a child doesn’t necessarily happen as easily as you might think. I know, and I am not the only one to have this problem. For women in finance, the heavy workload, the high stress and the lack of sleep not only make it difficult to find a partner, but are a recipe for hormonal imbalance and infertility. The longer I work in banking, the more that I feel that I’m being made to make a choice: the ability to conceive, or the opportunity to become an MD.
The conception part is actually not that hard; you sleep with someone a few times. The bolded part is her real problem. She of course fell for the lie that women can have it all. She chose the high powered banking career, she is a VP after all, and is now bewildered to discover that being a VP has exactly zero effect on attracting men. But then again, we know that men are attracted to youth and beauty, not careers and power.
A heavy workload, high stress, and lack of sleep in a woman translates into one thing and one thing only – a strung out hysterical bitch that no sane man would want anything to do with.
My male colleagues don’t have this dilemma. Not only are they able to have children easily (often with women who work outside banking) but their ability to start families is making it even harder for female bankers like me to do the same.
This woman is amazed that there exists people who work outside banking. One presumes that she was searching for her conception vehicle within the walls of where she works. Unable to talk one of her co-workers into hooking up, she is now bitter that her male colleagues are somehow finding the time and energy to have families.
Heads up chicky-babes; men have been juggling these two responsibilities since like forever.
Men and women are not the same. Women can and will work as hard as men, but doing so often comes at a tangible physical cost. This is why a lot of the senior women in banking are childless. By comparison, most of the men in banking have children. Some women in banking choose not to have children, but for a lot of women it’s forced upon them. Men in banking need to be more sensitive to this – and to stop crowing about their children and expecting childless female colleagues to pick up the slack when they start dumping work on them and taking extra time off.
And here we see laid bare the most ironic fact of all; it turns out that the ones who can have it all are men. We get the careers and we get to have children as well. I mean, seriously heads explode stuff right here, folks.
Sorry, not sorry.