Look out toyboys, the cougars are on the prowl.

Katie Glass is a “thirty something” columnist for The Times who judging by her photos, (and don’t we just love to), her best years are most certainly somewhere behind her in the far distance.

 

In an article a few weeks ago she gushed at the joys of dating younger men, much younger men. Apparently everyone’s doing it! By everyone she means regular women like Madonna, Heidi Klum, Kate Moss, you know the score. Apparently these sorts of women are her besties and besties do the same things, and the big thing now is to get engaged to a guy who ten years earlier if the world was still sane they would have been telling to go clean up their rooms.

Who needs a man when a toyboy will do?

Once, women who dated younger men were called “cougars”. The word makes me cringe: it sounds as patronising as “toyboys” and as outdated. The c and t-words fetishise age and suggest novelty flings. Neither does justice to the reality of modern age-gap relationships, which I think rather wonderfully reflect how notions of gender and age have changed. Women today don’t need relationships to give us status or security. We’ve become the men we wanted to marry, so we can marry the boys we fancy instead.

The term toyboys might indeed be patronising but that didn’t stop Glass from sprinkling it through her screed at any opportunity, (the headline was chosen by her copy editor so I can’t blame her for that.)

But what is more illuminating from this little passage is the clear revelation that women have indeed become the men in today’s world; manly women who epitomize the negative traits of masculinity without the corresponding positive traits to balance things out. They don’t need relationships for status or security or, heaven help us, to actually have a family. They need them for, I’m not sure what. Sex?

But if they don’t need these relationships for status then why are they filling their social media feeds with it?

All my favourite women – Madonna, Moss, Joan Collins, the Wife of Bath – know the fun of having a younger beau. They feed you great music, take you to cool parties and explain how TicToc works.

The term boys seems most apt in these cases if this is the hidden depth in these relationships. It goes without saying that the reversal of the roles here would lead to immediate outrage as well as accusations of the young women being used.

But where are the young women? Why are these twenty something men turning to women who could be their mothers, or even their grandmothers in Macron’s case? The answer is that young women in their twenties are busily engaged in the process of turning themselves into female versions of men. They are chasing the power careers while casually freezing their eggs in the hopes that a younger man will turn up in the future and “invigorate” them.

But last year a study by Harvard Medical School found that older women who wanted families fared better with younger partners, whose sperm appeared to “invigorate” their eggs, making the women more likely to conceive than with someone their own age or older.

More prudent men might balk at the idea of dating an older woman, rightly concerned at the inevitable unwelcome consequences that such an age gap provides further down the line. But that is simply old square thinking! Nobody enters a relationship in these modern and enlightened times to actually commit long term to the relationship.

The psychotherapist Julia Cole suggests the increase in age-gap relationships reflects how “the whole notion of who you can be in love with has opened up and become freer”. She relates this to the rise of the LGBT movement, which has helped to dissolve barriers around love. “The idea that you can love someone across a boundary has altered in one generation,” she notes.

You can love anyone you want with no tacky societal disapproval to weigh you down. And you don’t have to think of the children because the way we’re going there won’t be any.

11 thoughts on “Look out toyboys, the cougars are on the prowl.

  1. Dave

    When I read the lines….

    “We’ve become the men we wanted to marry, so we can marry the boys we fancy instead.”

    and…

    “The whole notion of who you can be in love with has opened up and become freer”

    Very creepy……. but no matter what, younger, tighter, and hotter always wins the day as biology will always trump an older woman’s self coping. This broad is also confusing love and lust… the guy in on the lust side of the equation.

    “Take you to cool parties”……

    These old broads just can’t seem to understand they are simply seen as an easy lay by these younger guys who will dispense with them when given the chance for a younger replacement. It’s the car analogy again…… you drive the older model till you can afford something better.

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  2. Al Jahom

    Aye, I’m sure they really wanna marry boys who still live at home with mum at 28. Though, these may be the boys looking to move in with a new ‘mum with benefits’.

    Ooooh she’ll be bitching in years to come (and sooner than she thinks, looking at her) when they won’t settle down and impregnate her because her eggs belong in a display case at the natural history museum.

    This is far from the first screed of ludicrous shit spewed by this Glass woman.

    I cancelled my Times subscription last week, because it’s turned into such a pile of progressive, pro-remain, femitard shite.

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  3. This is also called a “Benny and Mrs. Robinson” relationship.
    Why do younger men go for older broads?
    Younger chicks require a better Skittles Game – something which younger men haven’t yet developed.
    Meanwhile, women in their thirties get down to business pretty fast – something which younger men are quite grateful for, and quick to jump on.
    Another way to look at it, men in their early twenties, and women in their mid-thirties, are both in their peak libido phase. So it doesn’t take much to get the fire roaring between them.
    Older women find it very easy to manipulate younger men, which feeds their fallen, feral desire for control over men. So I feel sorry for those guys who marry into it, like the French president, Micron and his old bag. Older guys should be trying to get close to the 1/2+7 rule in their choice of a partner.

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  4. purge187

    Translation: I know that no man in his right mind will have anything to do with me, so I go after the younger men who think with their smaller heads.

    And the collective Left’s desensitization to pedophilia keeps marching on.

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  5. squid_hunt

    This sort of article is always whistling in the dark and ego stroking for the readers. Of COURSE you can nail a bunch of young guys. Why, they’re lining up to sleep with old, used up women with wrinkles, stretch marks, and waddles.

    I want to see some hard statistics. Cause I’m skeptical.

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  6. earl

    Why not call these women the ‘Peter Pan’ type or whatever mythical feminine creature that never got out of a childish mindset and think that their high dopamine levels should be satisfied 24/7/365.

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  7. PatrickSMcNally

    This underscores a major fallacy of Jim Geraghty. Career women who are not able to tie Christian Gray down don’t suddenly develop an interest in Ward Cleaver. Rather, they start chasing after the Beaver for a bang. Ward Cleaver is stuck wondering where his little boy Theodore is out late at night. Contra Geraghty, that’s the real dream of career women who are forced to settle for less than Christian Gray. They’ll dump the Beaver for Christian Grey anytime, but they won’t bother with Ward Cleaver at all.

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  8. Gretz

    “They don’t need relationships for status or security or, heaven help us, to actually have a family. They need them for, I’m not sure what. Sex?”

    Initially, I’d say: Validation that they’re desirable.

    Though it dilutes the reward when it’s the boys that have been so knee-capped by our culture that they’re not functional or successful enough on their own to pursue their own cohorts, rather than older women.

    So the other thing that they’re looking for someone they can have power over, in a pretty one-sided relationship. I’m sure the target boy will get a rude awakening when he realizes that there’s nothing in his name, and the kid (if they have one) is a huge obligation that he’ll be paying a monthly ransom on for a decade or more, and absolutely no chance of getting primary custody. The threat of being destroyed by an allegation of domestic violence (or some other #MeToo allegation) is pretty strong, too.

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