Some time in the early 80s weak or clueless men started listening to what women were saying about what they wanted in relationships. Even worse they took what was said seriously. And worse again they acted on it. If women said that they wanted men who were great listeners then men became the world champions of listening. Perfectly happy to be the puppet on the string if the sex carrot was dangled at the end of it. Anything to get laid.
Three decades of having no standards has meant that we got the women that we asked for and deserve.
One of women’s criteria, particularly in the last decade, has been the requirement that men have to get in touch with their feelings. Coupled with this has been the rise in the use of the misandrist term of toxic masculinity. Men who are slaves to toxic masculinity are the ones who have made no effort to get in touch with their feelings. From school age young boys are taught by severe female authoritarians that the only thing that matters is feelings and getting in touch with them. Real men have feelings and are not afraid to cry.
This was what women said that they wanted and once again we made the twin mistakes of listening in the first place and then acting on information of rather dubious quality. In other words, for over 30 years men have been listening to the sort of advice that you would see in Cosmo magazine. So how do the chicks like their new feeling orientated men?
As it turns out, not very much at all.
The idea of an “emotional gold digger” was first touched on in 2016 by writer Erin Rodgers with a tweet that continues to be re-posted on social media—both by women who married self-described feminist men, and by those with more conservative husbands. It has gained more traction recently as women, feeling increasingly burdened by unpaid emotional labor, have wised up to the toll of toxic masculinity, which keeps men isolated and incapable of leaning on each other. Across the spectrum, women seem to be complaining about the same thing: While they read countless self-help books, listen to podcasts, seek out career advisors, turn to female friends for advice and support, or spend a small fortune on therapists to deal with old wounds and current problems, the men in their lives simply rely on them.
Burdened by unpaid emotional labor. There we go, lads. Not only do they hate that you took their stupid advice, they resent you so much that they want to be paid to listen to your stupid feelings.
The writer of the piece disparages men for not having relationships with other men instead of having to rely on women. But the thing is we did have deep and meaningful relationships with other men, but women hated that and did their very best to destroy it. Men meeting to exclusively hang out and talk with other men has been made illegal in most parts of the Western world under the guise of excluding women.
Women demanded entry into male only spaces in the blinkered belief that they were setting new standards for equality when all they were actually doing was breaking down and dismembering a sophisticated and unofficial male support network. Couple that with the constant demands that men get in touch with their feelings with the women in their life and blokes dutifully did what was asked of them.
“Men don’t usually put the effort into maintaining friendships once they’re married,” Johnson says. “The guys at work are the only people other than me that my husband even talks to, so when some of these men retire, they expect their wives to be their source of entertainment and even get jealous that they have a life.”
All men have experienced the loss of a good friend when he shacked up with a woman who immediately set out to cut him off from all of his previous networks, remodeling him in her image. The mental gymnastics that is going on in this article in order to justify women’s severe frustration with what they supposedly wanted all along is nothing short of astonishing. But the level to which they hold in contempt the men who followed orders and got with the program should give younger men serious pause for consideration.
Johnson jokes that women her mom’s age seem to be waiting for their husbands to die so they can finally start their life. “I’ll get a call saying so-and-so kicked the bucket and sure enough, his widow is on a cruise around the world a week later with her girlfriends.”
Uncontrolled female hypergamey seemingly has no limits to its inherent wickedness. You listen to women at your literal peril. As a man, not only must you build and create a life for yourself, you must also work hard to cultivate committed male friendships. The challenge with that is the fact that you risk losing those valuable friendships to women seeking to recreate their new beau in their own image.
The truly ironic thing is that it is often women who are guilty of manipulating men by using them as surrogate feeling dumping grounds of their own. A woman who is friends with a man in a beta orbiter style relationship will happily keep him around as an emotional crying bag so as to validate her poor choices with the cads who treat her badly. She will flirt with him just enough to make him feel that he is on the brink of achieving intimacy with her when all the while she has no intention of ever allowing him to sully her precious body with his unworthy beta seed. And when she finally does find a man to settle with then the beta orbiter will immediately discover just how worthless their emotional friendship actually was.
What we are seeing as regards to women’s impulses is nothing new. What is new is that women have free reign to indulge in their impulses. The article that I linked to is yet another example in an endless stream of female self-justification and goalpost moving. Whatever women are demanding that their men do today is what they will be complaining about in the near future. The lesson is to not listen to them in the first place. And as for acting on what they say, that is downright lunacy and a sure path to misery, both for men and women.
They hate us so much because we weren’t strong enough to stand up to them. And they’re still demanding that we find our collective balls and finally put them in their place. What do you think a term such as toxic masculinity is really about anyway? It’s just one more step on a decades long shit test that most of us have been failing.