Sorry Christian woman aged 32, nobody wants to marry you.

A Christian woman despairs at the scarcity of suitable husband material for herself and her cohorts – Where are the good Christian men? For men who are red-pilled, the clue to her problem is in the article title; she wants good men, obedient men, but not necessarily men who are good at being men.

Yet one important side-effect of all this that gets little attention is how tough this new environment has become for women, especially Christian women, to find good husbands. The situation is so dire there is now an emerging trend of women abandoning their faith and religious beliefs for the sake of romantic relationships.

Two things here. It is true that women in general really want to get married. But whether they desire to stay married is another question entirely, and the divorce rates coupled with the very high probability that the woman will torpedo the marriage has led men to come to the correct conclusion that it is a dud deal. Men aren’t abandoning marriage, they’ve just become a lot more careful in the selection process. We’re picky, sweethearts.

The apparent emerging trend of women abandoning their faith in order to shack up with anyone with a pulse merely underlines their general lack of loyalty. Women today are loyal in so far as it satisfies their short term desires. So a woman who will abandon her faith in order to get hitched is an extremely poor long term marriage prospect.

Yet for someone like me – a 32-year-old single Catholic – the situation looks bleak indeed.

I can talk to any young woman in my social circle and they will, one and all, say the same thing: there just aren’t any men. What we mean by this is there is a frightening scarcity of men aged 25-35 who are church-going, single and worldly-wise.

I knew without a shadow of a doubt her age before I began reading the piece. You’re too old; it’s over. Go join a nunnery where you will be shut up and you won’t do any more damage to younger women wanting to make correct choices. This woman wasted her prime fertile years spent chasing a journalism career of all things, as if that even exists in this day and age, and now at the age of 32 she expects to nail down a 25 year old Christian husband? The 25 year old guys are looking at the 18 year old women. But don’t bother with the 35 year old guys because they’re after the 18 year olds as well.

The article I linked to is actually by Rod Dreher and he has posted updates of feedback he has received about the woman’s original article.

If you’re a Christian, you want to marry a Christian. Problem is, more women than men practice, almost across the board (the Orthodox and the Mormons are the two general exceptions IIRC). So if you’re a college-educated Christian woman looking for the same…you’re in trouble.

They don’t just want a good Christian man; they want a good college-educated Christian man, because the laws of hypergamey state that women must marry up. But women have succeeded in driving young men away from college, whether by freezing them out in the first place via affirmative action policies or making the college environment itself extremely hostile to any young man who manages to get a foot in the door. Women outnumber men in college, so the laws of supply and demand are simple in regards to these same women all being able to find a suitable marriage prospect. But then, relying on women to successfully do math and translate it to real life is expecting a little bit much.

In sum, it’s impossible to imagine a Christian man writing what this young woman has. But I know at least a dozen very successful, attractive, devout Christian women who are in exactly her shoes.

Women write this all the time as if it’s a positive when lining up their credentials as a suitable marriage prospect. Try and get it into your thick skulls that men are not looking for successful women. We are looking for young and attractive women who want to have babies. Thus it has always been and thus it always will be. This is simple projection on women’s part because it is women who desire successful men, but you’ve driven them out of the workplace in numbers that have seriously undermined your own marriage prospects.

Let’s finish with a quote from the original article as linked to by Rod Dreher because it nicely encapsulates the general level of delusion that women have at the moment.

Like many other young women, I firmly believed I would be married by the time I turned 25. My anxiety and doubt have steadily increased through all the birthdays, while my finger has remained bare.

Being so thoroughly convinced all my life that marriage was my vocation, it has come as a painful, and frankly humiliating, shock to find myself 32 years old and alone. So I completely understand the desperation that is now driving women to enter or cling to relationships even if they’re toxic, harmful or illicit.

Oh bullshit. If marriage was your vocation then why did you spend all your time and energy writing hack stories for the local suburban rag? What a pathetic way to waste your prime fertile years. But as always, listen not to what women say but watch what they do. I have no sympathy for this woman, none. She believed the lie that women could have it all as so many of her peers have done, and they believed it because they selfishly wanted it to be true. Well, it’s not true. You can either marry a husband young when you are attractive and fertile and have lots of babies, or you can chase a job and then be lonely and have lots of cats while you write miserable articles complaining of your plight.

Choose wisely.

20 thoughts on “Sorry Christian woman aged 32, nobody wants to marry you.

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  2. TechieDude

    I have a son that’s a devout Catholic. Smart, fit, monied. He’s 25. He’s not exactly having a ton of luck at the Church, although the playing field is different these days.

    When I was in my 20s, I was Catholic, although not so devout.

    Back then, one of my roomate’s girlfriends tried setting me up with her ‘devout’ friend. This chick wasn’t bad looking. A solid 7 or so, little fuller figured than I like, but not at all fat. I, like my kid, was fit, successful, a great catch. I tried a few times to get her to go out to no avail. Too much work, so I moved on. Not long after I met my wife.

    I’ll never forget going to that roomate’s wedding and running into that chick. Don’t know what vibe she was putting out but the new wife had her claws out and was ready to bear her fangs.

    So I can tell her, with some authority, the guys were there. She ignored them. Now, she’s completely off their radar. I know one or two of my Catholic brothers in their late 40s that would have a go.

    BTW, every one of my wife’s friends that hit that age unmarried, hooked up with dudes in their 40s. Hell, I can probably name half a dozen. She’s looking in the wrong market.

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  3. purge187

    “But whether they desire to stay married is another question entirely[.]”

    They don’t want marriage so much as they want the concept of marriage – the white picket fence, the big house, the shaggy dog, etc. The “honeymoon phase” doesn’t last long.

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  4. Chuck Hortler

    I say this tell in her post reveals a lot– it’s not everything but it’s a lot. She’s looking for guys who are “worldly-wise”.

    For traditional Christians, this is code word for spendy and wants to party a lot on someone else’s salary while popping a kid (so they have something to talk about for a while until it gets to be way too much like work) who then gets turned over to Public School babysitting services where they can feed heartily on Leftism that would make Trotsky blush.

    For “woke ‘n worldly” Christians this might mean not being Christian at all in a lot of different ways; not the least of which is open throat swallowing from the world’s philosophical cesspool and friendly firing upon people actually practicing Christianity.

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    1. Chuck Hortler

      weird. Focus on the Family just posted this book reference: Fierce Women … I would guess most Feminista-trained Christians would throat vomit at the suggestions here

      I’m not going to link it and this may be too much to post here. but FWIW:

      “Can you have a strong personality and still be a godly wife? YES

      Do you ever get the idea that being a godly wife means you need to be a mousy doormat? Be as unnoticeable as a doorknob? Or have a personality transplant?

      Fierce Women: The Power of a Soft Warrior smashes that idea. No matter whether you’re an extrovert or more introverted, Kimberly Wagner believes women are created to be a compelling force.

      You may not see yourself as beautifully fierce or even slightly strong, but what if God has placed a powerful fierceness within you, within every woman? Kim admits her fierceness became a source of conflict in her marriage, but the relationship dynamic totally changed when she discovered her fierce strengths could be used to encourage and inspire her husband. She invites you to come alongside as she takes an honest look at a destructive relationship dynamic and casts a vision for the transformation God can bring to troubled marriages.”

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    1. Dave

      Yup that is the hilarity component of it…….

      It’s like a women who state they are a Catholic or Christian on their dating profiles, and have never been married, yet are in their 30s & 40s…. they would not do this if they didn’t understand subconsciously the value of a virgin to a man as opposed to their own used-up status.

      The flaunting of religion at advanced age by women trying to attract high value men is akin to simply trying to paint over rust.

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  6. Al Jahom

    It takes a strong and unusual man to swim against the tide of contemporary expectations, and an even more unusual woman, tending as they do to herd-behaviour.

    Your assessment is right, but I think some allowance should be made for the extent to which she and most women her age have been brainwashed, and the enormous psychological leap required for the reckoning with reality she so desperately needs.

    I suppose we will be waiting until it is all far too late before women like her wake up and tell the “college & career” feminists to stick their ruinous agenda up their foetid, yeasty cat flaps… but.. like the red pill, it’s a journey and the first leg is the most traumatic.

    With a bit of introspection and a big dose of brave-pills, this woman could snatch fulfilment from the jaws of defeat, but the chances are slim.

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  7. Dave

    Some women like the idea of getting married but not necessarily being married, its all about the journey towards marriage and being the center of attention, once that has evaporated it’s time for her to move on aka divorce.

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  8. I also have a 26 year old son who is a devout Catholic, has a great job and is actively trying to look for a Catholic girl to marry and have kids. He is average in the looks department. Guess what? None of the young ladies he meets is interested in marriage at this age. They are only interested in their careers, or in pursuing advanced degrees. He was actually engaged to a young lady who broke off the engagement to pursue a PhD. He has given up on Catholic Match app, since none of the girls seem to really be interested in even replying. Several girls that he dated (from Catholic Match) wanted to move in with him. When he replied that he wanted to remain chaste until marriage, they ran. I feel bad for him, there are not really any good young ladies that care about their faith or really want to be a wife (in a traditional sense) out there at all. Its a desolate wasteland. Question: Where have all the women gone? Answer: to work on their careers or advanced degrees.

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  9. Someone

    Ah, the ‘Christian’ woman. I’ve done the 40’s dating thing. I regard any woman who says ‘I want a God fearing man’ as a whack job to be dismissed. I don’t get real excited about any religion and have no desire to invest my time into something like that at this stage in my life. The dating sites are filled with ‘Christian’ women with pics of their tits hanging out.

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  10. Joe

    You’d hang on to relationship that’s “toxic, harmful or illicit”? We’ll, take it from ME, & this is one of the best pieces of advice you’ll get in your sad life: DON’T. Stay SINGLE. Be YOURSELF, BY yourself. As for RELIGION, good grief. It’s idiotic, anachronistic nonsensical nonsense.

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  11. jb

    “Try and get it into your thick skulls that men are not looking for successful women. We are looking for young and attractive women who want to have babies.”
    There is a definite trend of college-educated men marrying only college-educated women who are about at their own educational level. No more boss marrying his young secretary. Some are troubled by this development because they see it as creating an emerging permanent ruling caste. Also as a marker of growing class isolation.

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  12. Sadly we are unable to tell women what we actually want from women because they freak out. I have told a 23 year old girl to acquire a husband in her youth and she has a boyfriend but unless you are able to get them when they are young there is no chance they will listen.

    And yet at the same time they all know innately that men want flat stomach, curves and a nice smile more than anything else.

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  13. Gretz

    Congrats, ladies. You and your mothers worked so hard to make men what they are today.

    You have the men you deserve.

    Maybe if you gave the next angry Feminist spewing her misandry a ‘thank you’, by way of a punch in the septum piercing, you’d get some attention.

    And maybe look around your church and asked the pastor why no men want to come in any more, let alone take a risk on a marriage. Imagine what living with you would be like, and ask if a man would want to look forward to it, or would it be something he’d cringe at.

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  14. Rose

    On a related note, this post made me laugh a lot:

    https://stylishpetite.com/2019/05/body-shaming-looking-feeling-confident.html

    The blogger has recently split from her husband and is complaining that people are criticising her for dressing too revealingly. “I finally feel good about myself. I feel good in my own skin. I will not apologize for feeling confident. I will not apologize for being sexy and I most certainly will not apologize for how I dress. … To all the trolls that body shame others, you should be ashamed of yourself. Truly. It’s disgusting behavior and I will say an extra prayer for you.”

    The humble-bragging in the Comments is pretty funny too.

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    1. Literally scrub out my eyes with bleach after reading that. I particularly like the part where she threatens to go apeshit on anyone bringing her sprog into it when she is obviously the one who used the kid as a public virtue signaling tool in the first place.

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