An article about the ridiculous #MeToo movement is not just a case study in the duplicitous and exploitative behavior of women, but is also a somewhat frightening examination of what not to do as a man if you find yourself a target of the #MeToo mob.
Tucker wrote that while making out in bed with Kaiman, she had a change of heart, so she stood up and said she didn’t want to continue. She wrote, “He lay on the bed, not moving, watching me. I remember that he sort of smiled and seemed to pout.” As they talked and she repeated that she didn’t want to have sex, she wrote, “he began to whine,” which made her feel “like it was too late to back out.”
In Kaiman’s telling, he was startled by Tucker’s sudden U-turn and tried verbally to re-establish their previous playful mood. While they talked, he stayed where he was; he didn’t want to make any physical move toward her. He says that after a brief conversation he concluded the night was coming to an end and that he should leave, so he sat up with the intention of getting dressed.
She described what happened next: “I am still so upset that I concluded the easiest, least confrontational way forward was to place male satisfaction above my own desires and to go back to bed.” The sex made her feel “gross,” she wrote, and Kaiman left immediately afterward. His recollection is that she was a full participant and that he stayed the night. When he went to kiss her goodbye the next morning, he says, he was surprised that she seemed distant and upset.
This is what used to be known as a charity fuck, a situation where it would be more socially difficult to not have sex with a person. I have performed a few of these in my time; the motivation being to allow the woman in question to keep hold of her self worth. A lot of women do not handle rejection very well at all. But as it turns out, even more women cannot handle performing charity fucks.