Rollo has a new article where he refers to a topic from a couple of years ago which he called being zeroed out.
I think it ought to be part of any Red Pill aware man’s understanding that at many points in our lives we will be confronted with the prospects of having to rebuild ourselves. Failure, rejection and disappointment will happen for you, that’s just part of a man’s life, and it’s easy to rattle off platitudes about how many times you get back up being the measure of a man. But what I’m saying is there will be times when total reconstruction of your life will be a necessity.
You will be zeroed out at some point, and how you handle this is a much different situation than any temporary setback. This zeroing out is made all the more difficult when you confront the fact that what you believed to be so valuable, the equity you were told was what others would measure you by, was all part of your Blue Pill conditioning. At that point you need to understand that there is most definitely a hope for a better remake of yourself based on truths that were learned in the hardest way.
I can relate to this having being zeroed out a few times in my life. The most recent one was a near total reset after my sudden and unexpected divorce. This was complicated and compounded by the fact that I was in a foreign country and had only been there for a relatively short time. As far as being zeroed out goes, this was right up there.
As Rollo correctly notes a lot of guys are going to find themselves in the situation of being zeroed out in this most glorious year 2020. What you thought you knew and more importantly, what you thought you were able to deal with will be thrown away and you will be tested. This will entail a great deal of stress, uncertainty and hardship.
The fact of the matter is that we’re all going to have to embrace the pain. The sooner that you do so then the more of an advantage you will have. Pining for the fjords isn’t going to bring them back. John Wilder wrote about this a little while ago in a discussion about Nicholas Taleb’s Black Swan theory.
All Black Swans are chemical reactions – they are irreversible, even though people expect a return to the “way things were” it never happens – you can’t unburn the paper. The change is a one-way event. In one (for me) particularly striking story in The Black Swan, Taleb wrote that his relatives from Lebanon were still waiting for things to return to normal, even though it had been thirty years since the war had ripped Lebanon apart. No, they weren’t crack dealers, and they weren’t alone. Even as late as 2012, 76,000 people were displaced within Lebanon, waiting for things to get back to normal.
This reminds me of the general discussion as to why for example Australia can’t go back to the population demographics and way of life of the early 1970s. The boat has sailed, the plane has flown; there is no going back.
But those of us in this little corner of the internet also have somewhat of an advantage as we have spent the past few years searching for and discovering truth. Truth about themselves and truth about the world in general. That’s a big help when the crap hits the fan as it is doing right now. John has another good post today where he lists the stages of dealing with a world changing event that we are seeing unfold in real time.
As both John and Rollo note, a lot of people are going to be gripped by panic as this whole thing really gets going and the consequences start raining down. Which is why that old poem by Kipling is a helpful starting point, (and conveniently posted up by Weka this morning). I won’t post the entire poem, just a section:
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
For far too long young men in our societies have been lost as to what path or direction to take, and more importantly how to make a man of oneself. That poem deals exactly with that challenge, which goes to show that men of different ages had the same problem, albeit in different circumstances. How often have I read some comment on a message board which is a plaintive cry for wishing to have been born in a different time, a time when there were tangible physical challenges for the daring young man to confront and prove himself.
Careful what you wish for.